Self-Help // Philosophy



“All men make mistakes, but married men find out about them sooner.” -Red Skelton

I’ll be honest, I’ve been trolling online updates about people and what they’re enjoying, what they’re missing, what they’re lamenting and what they’re celebrating. I’ve had some very revealing conversations with people regarding their desires and personality types as well. All in all, I find that people have a desire to find the piece that’s missing. They sometimes don’t even realize it however it’s made obvious when shortly after our conversations I find out they’ve found someone who fulfills the same missing parts we’ve discussed. Also, they might suddenly appreciate the person in their life even more than they realized after our talks. It’s ying and yang. The search to find that what’s missing from your heart and soul to complete you. Chinese philosophy suggests that “Ying and Yang” can be thought of as complementary forces that interact to form a dynamic system in which the whole is greater than the assembled parts. If you have ever been close to someone and watched them become more after meeting “the one” you might be inclined to agree with this philosophy. It’s a beautiful transformation to witness and I imagine even more so to enjoy. Tonight, we dive into the wonder of connection…

Scene 1: There sits a person alone. Their only comfort is found in the strangers who remember their names and possibly a favorite joke or story. They are searching, not necessarily lost, but in pursuit of making a connection with someone who makes them feel alive. Suddenly they find someone who stirs within them something strong enough to initiate a conversation….

Scene 2: Person 1 and 2 have been talking and seeing each other for some time. Both parties are feeling some type of way in regards to that special connection and it appears that they are growing more fond of one another. If we were able to see these fictitious characters we would see glowing smiles, heart felt laughter and physical assurance they were growing more and more involved.

Scene 3: Friends and Family are introduced and it’s most certainly a dedicated investment these characters are enjoying.

From this point on we the reader know that 1 of 2 things happen, they get married, or they don’t. Either way, the point of this writing is to suggest that as people we are constantly in pursuit of completion. We see within ourselves a certain opportunity and often find it with someone else. Ying and Yang. (There are those who seek to fulfill the absence in other means, but without diving into so many hypotheticals, we shall keep with the points made above.)

This isn’t the most eloquent post, however, it might be the most thought provoking yet. When you look at your life and the people in it, where does the completion begin and end? Do you know your strengths and weaknesses enough to notice your better half? Or are you still searching yourself to discover that which you truly need to feel complete?

We all need someone. Do you know who you need and why, truly?

“The unexamined life is not worth living” -Socrates

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